All About the “Weird” Mormon Wedding Rituals


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Unlike most churches, some Mormon marriage ceremonies are not open to non-Mormons.  This may seem quite “weird” to those who have never heard of such a wedding ceremony, but the purpose behind this approach to the marriage ceremony is actually quite revealing of how Mormons feel about the family.

The truth is, however, that Mormon weddings aren’t all that “weird” at all.  In fact, the weirdest thing about Mormon weddings is their success rate.  The LA Times reported on a study showing that the divorce rate among Mormons who marry in a temple is only 6%.  That is remarkable, considering that the divorce rate among most other Christian religions mirrors the 52% divorce rate among non-Christians.

What Happens at a Mormon Temple Wedding?

I have attended many Mormon weddings.  Frankly, I don’t think anyone would be surprised to see what happens during a Mormon marriage ceremony.

The couple being married invites friends and family to attend the wedding–generally 25 to 40.  All those who attend must be 18 years of age or older and be members in good standing of the church (as explained above).  Those who attend the wedding come in to “sealing room” in the temple where weddings are performed, and sit on chairs as they watch the ceremony.  Guests wear typical church clothes (white shirt and tie for guys, dress or skirt for women).  Temples are like libraries–everyone speaks softly so as not to distract others.

Once the group of friends and family is seated, the bride and groom enter the room.  The bride wears a typical wedding dress, but one which is modest and not revealing.

The ceremony begins with a very short speech by the priest.  Mormons call this priest a “sealer” because this person has authority from God to “seal” a couple for time and all eternity (meaning the marriage endures even when in heaven).  This usually only lasts about 5 minutes, and the sealer simply gives a nice message about how to have a happy marriage.

When the marriage ceremony begins, the couple kneels down at an altar.  This ritual represents their humility before God.  Then, the sealer explains that the wedding means that the couple will be married and asked to care for and love one another, and asks both the bride and the groom individually if they are willing to make that promise to one another and to God.

At this point, the bride and groom exchange wedding rings in cultures where this is common practice.  Technically, the ring exchange is not part of the official ceremony, but it is typically done.

Because the couple obviously wants to celebrate with those who may not be members of the Mormon faith, Mormon weddings almost always include a big wedding reception party and luncheon where the couple invites all of their friends and family who aren’t Mormon.

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My wife and I in front of the Laie, Hawaii LDS Temple

Non-Temple Mormon Weddings

Not all Mormons marry in a temple.  To be married in the temple, the members of the church must actively attend church meetings and follow the commandments that they have promised to obey.

Members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (the official name of what some refer to as the “Mormon Church”) who do not choose to meet this standard or who do not want an eternal marriage, may be married in any of the church buildings by a bishop.

Marriages performed by a bishop (not a sealer) in a church (not a temple) are not eternal.  They are performed with the same promise as weddings in other churches–the couple is married only until death does them part.

Jim Harmer

I own an online company where I create websites which are read by millions of people. I'm a non-practicing lawyer, husband and a father of three little kiddos. My faith in Christ is the most important aspect of my life, and this blog is where I get to share my beliefs. The rest of the time, I'm riding dirt bikes or traveling the world taking pictures. I live in Star, Idaho where I attend my local congregation of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Each month, over 30,000 people come to this site to learn about the basic beliefs of my religion, and it's my privilege to share about it. The opinions expressed on this website are not necessarily those of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints as this blog is not an official source of church information. However, every effort is put into providing accurate information in support of the church.

2 thoughts on “All About the “Weird” Mormon Wedding Rituals

  1. I am a believer in Christ as well but not a Mormon, in the spirit of full disclosure. I recently attended a wedding reception of a friend of our family, so I was doing some research to understand the sealing ceremony and the Mormon belief in an eternal marriage.
    I need some help understanding an eternal marriage in light of Jesus’ response to a line of inquiry by some religious leaders of his day. Based on Jesus’ response, it would seem clear that there is not an extension of earthly marriage in heaven. See verses below:
    “Then the Sadducees, who say there is no resurrection, came to him with a question. “Teacher,” they said, “Moses wrote for us that if a man’s brother dies and leaves a wife but no children, the man must marry the widow and raise up offspring for his brother. Now there were seven brothers. The first one married and died without leaving any children. The second one married the widow, but he also died, leaving no child. It was the same with the third. In fact, none of the seven left any children. Last of all, the woman died too. At the resurrection whose wife will she be, since the seven were married to her?” Jesus replied, “Are you not in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God? When the dead rise, they will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. Now about the dead rising—have you not read in the Book of Moses, in the account of the burning bush, how God said to him, ‘I am the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob’? He is not the God of the dead, but of the living. You are badly mistaken!””
    ‭‭Mark‬ ‭12:18-27‬ ‭NIV‬‬
    http://bible.com/111/mrk.12.18-27.niv

    1. Great question. I found a very well thought out response to this question here: https://www.fairmormon.org/answers/Mormon_ordinances/Marriage/Jesus_said_%22neither_marry_nor_given_in_marriage%22

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